The Phases of Twin Flames
* Note: Not everyone will have the exact same experience in their Twin Flame Union, these are just the most common phases to expect. Also, each of these phases tends to run in cycles and when one cycle completes it will start all over again. Please read the page on Spiritual Development to understand the purpose of this cycle.*
Before the First Phase, synchronistic events will take place to prepare you to meet your Twin Flame. You and your Twin Flame will have unknowingly set into motion a set of circumstances that will free you to meet each other and this can happen years before the actual meeting.
Synchronistic events happened in our case approximately 2 years before.
Also, both parties must be AWAKE before meeting can commence. It's possible to have known your Twin Flame for many years and then suddenly realize your are Twin Flames. You could have met or crossed paths before as well. But we believe that would have had to occur prior to 2011. I will explain this belief later.
A series of events began to happen to set Michael and me on the path to meet each other. A few months before we met the Universe opened up its gifts and seemed to hand it to us on a silver platter. It was so perfectly set up it's still unbelievable... even now.
Michael and I met online and in a month we were together in person and we've been together ever since. When looking to the past, there were exactly 2 times before, approximately 30 years and 20 years before, that we may have crossed paths and didn't know that we had. We both agree that had we met then we may not have been spiritually mature enough to form a Union. The Universe knows the right time and so did we.
Twin Flame Phases
- The First Phase: The Meeting
- When Twin Flames meet for the first time, either in person or not, they may or may not recognize each other. They will, however, feel a strong pull to talk and get to know each other.
* A word of Caution, what we're about to say may not be what you want to hear, but, if you have found your Twin Flame and you are not together within a year, then that person is probably not your Twin Flame. This has been shown to us numerous times throughout our meditations.*
Twin Flame Unions are practically immediate no matter the distance, circumstance, or what have you. Twin Flames are being re-united for a purpose, and there is no delay in the process. This accelerated meeting was necessary and we believe it came about in 2011 specifically. We believe a shift in the energies occurred in 2011, that set Twin Flames and the Awakening process for all people on an accelerated path just before the big Shift in 2012.
So, we believe ( more than likely) if you have not United with your Twin within at least a year, especially since 2011, you have what is called a 'False Twin Flame'.
Both of us experienced a False Twin Flame right before we met. We were so sure that we had met our real Twin but we were very wrong. So, do not rely on what you think you "know".
(This happened in my case, I subconsciously knew we were Twin Flames and I said we were like Twins before any romantic feelings were felt. I was immediately drawn to Michael and felt a strong pull to get to know him. And this was after a couple of weeks talking to him in a group online. So, you see, at first I did not recognize him but my subconscious did.)
It is also very common for one to know or recognize their Twin Flame for sure and the other will not know for sure. Many reasons for this and it has to do with not trusting the process, ego, past let-downs,etc...
- "But, you see, you can be sitting next to your twin flame and not even know it, because from having gone forth from the octaves of light and being separated for so many long thousands of years, you don’t even recognize one another through the veils of karma."
- ~ Elizabeth Claire Prophet~
*One more thing to add to "your not going to like what we have to say", if you were with your "Twin Flame" and they are not with you anymore (excluding death) they are probably not your True Twin Flame. Once Twin Flames Unite, there is not a force on this planet (other than death) that will keep you from them. We are iron-clad on this. This is what we've learned and was shown to us by our Archangel guides during our many Meditations. *
We understand that this is not what you want to hear. It's a crushing blow because you may have felt so many wonderful, magical things with this person you think is your Twin Flame. And we want you to understand that the reason for the False Twin Flame is not to punish you, but to open you up...to break your Heart Chakra wide open so that in the next lifetime you will be ready at the outset to Unite with your True Twin Flame.
This means that you are going to clear much of your Karma in this life. This means that you are ready to move on to the next phase in your Spiritual Journey. And, if your soul is ready and your True Twin Flame is actually incarnated on this planet, you are just about to meet him or her.
If your True Twin Flame is not incarnated you will meet a Soul Mate that will propel you further along your path and teach you what you need to know before your next incarnation.
- Back to the Phases
- In just a few hours or even minutes after Twin Flames recognize each other the two are like the best of friends who have known each other all their lives. The pull to be together will strengthen and become near impossible to deny. They will find a way to meet one way or the other.
- Before meeting in the physical the Twin Flame Couple will meet in the Astral Plane to join in Hieros Gamos. If you click the link there it will take you to a site that explains in detail what Heiros Gamos is. Basically, Hieros Gamos is "Sacred Marriage", solely designed for Twin Flames. The Hieros Gamos will continually be experienced by the Twin Flame Couple throughout their lives together and on through Eternity.
- In just a few hours, days, or weeks the Twin Flame Couple will meet in person. It does not matter where the other is or what is going on in their lives. the pull to be together is instant and it does not subside. The Universe will have already constructed synchronistic events days, weeks or even years before to make this a reality. Nothing will stop this meeting.
When meeting in person, it will feel like you are finally home.
- Second Phase: Astral Sexual Union (Hieros Gamos)
- Don't be alarmed if the physical Union feels awkward at first. The reason why this happens is because of the energy that is produced between the Twin Flame Couple. The Twin Flame Couple have more than likely experienced the Hieros Gamos in the Astral Realm already, but in person, this energy is so intense it can be intimidating at first.
*Pertaining to Astral Unions and Hieros Gamos.* We could go into great detail what it's like to experience this, but let us just say what it's not. This is not sexual arousal by thought, or sexting, or imagination. It feels real, not from the imagination real, but really real, real time real. Real physical sensations, actual impressions on the skin real (like actually seeing the impression of your lovers hand on your arm...real). And yes, you actually see these impressions, you will literally see the skin move.
We've heard so many people state they have had astral sex....nope....nope and nope. You do not leave your body, you are right in your body. You are being moved physically by your partner as if they are right there with you. If you close your eyes there is absolutely no difference between the Astral and the Physical. This is conscious, awake, coherent, mutual, broad-daylight, in-this-moment time...real.
We aren't saying that you can't remote view sex, and feel sensations. We aren't saying that you can't Astral Project and have sexual sensation. And we think this is what people are experiencing when they say Astral Sex. This is when a person leaves their body and goes to another location and interact with someone's energy. It can feel quite real sure but not real like we are talking here.
Astral sex with Twin Flames is very different. It happens with just a desire to be with the other and it happens instantly, because Twin Flames are of the same vibration and the same soul essence they are completely connected at all times, there is no separation. Therefore they do not leave their body, they are (in essence) one in the same. You realize that your soul inhabits two bodies, yours and theirs.
I don't even think we could classify the Heiros Gamos as Astral Sex at all. It's so totally inconceivable and indescribable that we cannot possibly put it into words to truly have you completely understand what it's like or how it feels.
- Third Phase: Love Energy Creation
- When the two meet and become one they will create a very powerful Love Energy that can be felt by people that pass by. It's the most magical, healing energy that one has ever felt. Strangers will want to be near this energy and will find ways to get to know the Twin Flames so that they can bask in that Energy and much of the time they don't know why they are doing this. (In our experience, we've had people ask if they could stand between us because the energy we were creating feels so powerful and healing and blissful. People would comment on how much love they felt being near us and everyone looked our way wherever we went. The energy is not constant and will ebb and flow depending upon our moods and what is going on in our environment. But, as soon as we balance each other, and work together in any form, this Love Energy is created once again.)
- Fourth Phase: Doubt *The Precursor to the Runner Phase*
- For many there will be a time for one or even both to feel some doubt of the Twin Flame Phenomena. This is perfectly natural due to many varying factors. (Some claim that if you have even the slightest doubt, then you are not Twin Flames. We are here to tell you ~ doubt is the first sign that you are most assuredly Twin Flames.) This is just the brain trying to make sense of all that is happening in real-time because it all feels so unbelievable and your brain wants order, normalcy, and logic and because all these things are absent the brain will say, "nope, there has to be a logical explanation."
- Fifth Phase: Runner
The 'Runner Phase' is simply a desire to run away. One or the other will desire to leave the relationship (only for a second), due to the immense energy of Love that occurs between the Twin Flame Union. It can be quite overwhelming, quite scary to feel that much love. And we're not talking about some weird overwhelm of addicting love. Maybe some of you understand what we're talking about here; the addictive love that comes from a very dysfunctional unhealthy obsession kind of relationship. No, the love between Twin Flames is oh so very different than that. There is no sick obsession or addictive behavior ~none of that.
The Love between Twin Flames is almost unreal, in that it is so very accepting, and easy, and wonderful, and perfect. The perfection is what can be so scary and many times the runner may have had issues in past relationships with that nasty, addictive love, and now that they are in Perfect love, they might feel unworthy, wrong, or undeserving of Perfect Love... this makes a runner. But, in the end the runner never goes anywhere.
Another scary aspect is if the runner has had that nasty addiction type of love, then they are more than likely looking for a 'Fix' and they really cannot get that 'Fix' with a Twin Flame and that can be quite difficult to deal with. Why? Because Twin Flames are not addicted to each other. Remember, there are no expectations, no control and no judgements in the Twin Flame Union. This can cause the runner aspect as well. But, if you are with your True Twin Flame then as stated above, no force on this planet other than death can keep you from your Twin Flame. It's as simple as that.
- “...and when one of them meets the other half, the actual half of himself, whether he be a lover of youth or a lover of another sort, the pair are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy and one will not be out of the others sight, as I may say, even for a moment...”
Just to be clear...
*(We say "Other than Death." to mean physical separation only. There will never be a separation again once United with your True Twin Flame. Even if one Twin passes on and the other is left behind here, they are connected always and forever. And when the other Twin passes they will be reunited again energetically on the Other Side for all eternity.)*
- Sixth Phase: Balancing
- As for the physical, being Twin Flames is not the most fluid or uncomplicated Union. There are many strange and unusual happenings that will occur that might leave one or both of you thinking something is off when in all actuality everything is very on. This is what some have referred to as 'Balancing'. We like to refer to it as the Repelling Force, as is the case with magnets. Magnets have both a North and South pole, and if you place magnets North to North or South to South they will repel each other. This is exactly what Twin Flames do.... Why?
Twin Flames are made up of the exact same energy signature, the same soul essence, hence the term Twin. One Twin is Female, the other is Male, not necessarily Male or Female in human form, but the essence is either Masculine or Feminine. So, if the Twins become 'Balanced' (as in one who is balanced in their own personal masculine and feminine energies) then they are Female to Female and Male to Male, thus you have the Repelling Force...
So what happens when this Repelling Force happens?
It's much like two clumsy clowns in a Rodeo. Michael and I trip over each other, we will feel lost, confused, unconnected, weird, different, even foreign to each other. We will have trouble communicating to each other. It's very strange indeed, and we both comment on it when it happens. We've noticed that this happens more often than not, during Mercury Retrogrades. Mercury Retrogrades create confusion and miscommunication because the planet Mercury is the ruler of communication. So, everyone is affected to some degree during a Mercury Retrograde.
- Seventh Phase: The Enlightenment
- The real kicker is when you are finally United with your Twin Flame, there will be a complete and utter breakdown for one or both of you. We don't want to scare anyone at all here but, Enlightenment is a destructive force, and a Twin Flame Union will put you on the fast track to Enlightenment. Don't be surprised when everything is going wonderfully and then everything begins to fall apart. Whatever and however you might be blocked in any area you will most likely experience something that will make you face that block until it is cleared. The thing is you are ready to go through this if you have found your True Twin Flame. You will get through it and you will be better for it.
This is where many assume that the Twin Flames split or go their separate ways. This should not happen. What does happen though, Energetically the couple may separate for a time (see Spiritual Development). It has nothing to do with leaving or physical separation.
We imagine it's possible for the two to have a short physical separation during this phase... keyword short. And by short we mean a few hours maybe. We actually tried to separate due to one of us felt the need to stay in one state because they felt they still had things to do there and the other felt the need to go to another state... it never happened.
One of us literally told the other to go back to the place with our blessing with absolute certainty things would be just fine and it never happened.
Could one of us want to go somewhere for 3 months for any reason and be separated that way? Probably not (and not because we are addicted to each other but simply because the Universal force of Twin Flame Magnetization will not allow it.)
And believe us when we say the Universe will orchestrate very quickly a way for both to go or both to stay. It's happened so many times with us. For example: One of our parents passed away and we did not have the money for us both to go 900 miles away and be gone for a few weeks without working. So one of us was going to stay home and it was totally fine, yet the universe immediately came up with a way for us both to go without either one of us wishing it so and all within an hour.
*The Twin Flame Mission is very important and Twin Flames are on their very last incarnation on this planet. This means they will not be reincarnated in the next life (this is why Twin Flames do not separate). We knew this before incarnating in our present life and we agreed to come here, meet our other half, and prepare for Eternity. But there is always a choice and if you and your Twin choose to reincarnate in the next life together anyway, then it's perfectly fine to do so (because we all have free-will). Twin Flames will also have a 'Mission' in the afterlife, and the mission varies from couple to couple so what might be true for one set of Twins may not be the same truth for another set of Twins.
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